I was 16, a size 14 and it was —long before body positivity hit the mainstream or my Tumblr feed. Now, as a year-old woman wearing a size 20, sex has changed year after year as my body has gotten bigger and the dating pool has gotten smaller. Before fucking someone new, I feel the need to address my fatness before we meet. I think this is what some guys were hoping would happen too.
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Fat sex - Why I only want to have sex with fat bodies
My mam has always wished she could be as skinny as she was the first time she thought she was fat - and I often wish the same for my sex life. Not necessarily that I wish I was skinny as I was when I first started banging, but I wonder how my sex life would differ if I'd stayed as thin as I was then. My first five fuck buddies, when I was 16 and a size 14, only banged me if I was fully dressed or off my face. These guys were not at the same time, but in quick succession, because as much as I hated my body back then, I have always adored getting railed. What these men did have in common, however, was their own slimness, or the kind of weight that was deemed acceptable on a guy but never a girl and not even a teenage girl from a fat family with an eating disorder to boot. From that moment on, I only fucked him while wearing an oversized hoodie.
"Why I only want to have sex with fat bodies"
The F Word is a series celebrating what it means to be fat — from destigmatizing the word to taking stock of the discrimination fat people face. Whatever size you are — fat, skinny, or anywhere in between — you should feel comfortable and good about what you are doing, and that includes sex. Just you. To get more clear on what consent means and entails check out this cool graphic brought to you by Planned Parenthood. And, of course, there are many ways to make sex safer, which you can learn more about here.
Ever wondered how a sex coach decides to make sex their job? Athena Mae found her unlikely calling as a teenager, when friends came to her with their questions. Then she started teaching body-positive sex education.